Let's talk healing

Sips tea and starts writing.

Healing process is something hardly spoken about by the general public. No, I'm not talking about healing from physical wounds or death (that's a story for another day). I'm talking about healing from relationships. Specifically, friendships👀. One can only imagine the pain of going from talking every day to deleting contact, from smiling at the thought of them to crying about the same thoughts, thinking about all the plans you made with them that you now know fully well will never happen.

I'm Not talking about the loss of a friend by death (which by the way I think is a lot easier to deal with), I'm talking about the loss of a friend for no reason mmh.. you heard me right NO REASON. I'm talking about the kind of situation where you wake up one morning and realize your best friend of years has decided you're no longer important to them. No reason, no explanation. Just a sudden cutoff.

On today's episode of "let's talk" I'll be taking you through the stages of healing 

Firstly, always first (rolls eyes vigorously) is denial – the "nah, she's not snubbing me or answering weirdly, she's just very busy" stage,SID (Stares In delusional). This point, you start noticing the "social distancing," but you don't want to believe that your best friend of years will wake up one morning and decide you are no longer important to them,this phase last according to how delusional are🫠

Next, we have the realization/mourning stage. At this point, you've realized that your friend is no longer your friend – one of the most painful stages where you spend your spare time reading old text messages, looking at pictures, and crying instead of being productive(shakes head in I pity you). This can also be called the depression stage, which lasts the longest, unfortunately 😔.

Thirdly, we have the self-doubt or second denial stage. At this point, you think you are the problem – you start having thoughts like "maybe I'm jealous," "maybe I did something," "maybe I'm imagining," and every other possible maybe. You continue forcing the friendship because "maybe". You start going crazy,you decide to swallow your pride and confront your friend to find some sort of closure. They assure you nothing wrong and they'll change, even though something is clearly wrong and they never change.

After that stage, we have the acceptance/anger/come back to your senses stage. At this point, you've accepted that you've lost a friend and it wasn't your fault – you are very angry. You've also accepted that that person was just there to pass time (which has clearly passed😒). You delete their contact and pictures just so you can forget their existence. This is probably the saddest stage – you are still pained but you are learning to live without them.

The last stage: you are happier and have finally moved on. Although certain things will always remind you of the friend, it no longer gets you angry because you've realized that, at that point in life, they made you happy.

Takes last sip of tea and drops pen.

Ritadella.I.